Free Ebook: Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus (An Excerpt)

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus is a manual for loving relationships in the 1990s. It reveals how men and women differ in all areas of their lives. Not only do men and women cornmunicate differently but they think, feel, perceive, react, respond, love, need, and appreciate differently. They almost seem to be from different planets, speaking different languages and needing different nourishment. This expanded understanding of our differences helps resolve much of the frustration in dealing with and trying to understand the opposite sex. Misunderstandings can then be quickly dissipated or avoided. Incorrect expectations are easily corrected. When you remember that your partner is as different from you as someone from another planet, you can relax and cooperate with the differences instead of resisting or trying to change them. Most important, throughout this book you will learn practical techniques for solving the problems that arise from our differences. This book is not just a theoretical analysis of psychological differences but also a practical manual for how to succeed in creating loving relationships. The truth of these principles is self-evident and can be validated by your own experience as well as by common sense. Many examples will simply and concisely express what you have always intuitively known. This validation will assist you in being you and in not losing yourself in your relationships. In response to these insights, men often say "This is exactly how 1 am. Have you been following me around? I no longer feel like something is wrong with me." Women often say "Finally my husband listens to me. I don't have to fight to be validated. When you explain our differences, my husband understands. Thank you!" These are but a few of the thousands of inspirational comments that people have shared after learning that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. The results of this new program for understanding the opposite sex are not only dramatic and immediate but also long lasting.

(I can give you a free copy of the ebook. All you have to do is leave me a comment, post your name and email address, and I'll give you this free ebook.)

The Woman Men Adore and Never Want to Leave by Bob Grant

Knowing what's in the mind of men is POWER!  I myself tried to learn about it.  I read lots of books about the mindset of men. One of them is The Woman Men Adore and Never Want to Leave.

Being a woman men adore and never want to leave comes with the great smile and the great attitude. With the great smile, you have to learn it yourself. With the attitude, you can learn it by reading this book.

This book tells you how to react, how to express your feelings without hurting the guy's ego. This also tells you how to massage men's ego. 





This ebook has 115 pages. This is the table of contents:

Chapter 1: Vulnerability
Trying Harder
The Ability to Influence


Chapter 2: What Men Really Want
The Man is the Head; The Woman is the Heart
The Brain's Role in Relationships
Pain and Voids
Beauty

Chapter 3: Listening to Your Heart
What is your Heart
Listening to your Feelings

Chapter 4: Certain Deaths to Relationship
Pounds of Anger

Chapter 5: Forgiveness
Stages of Forgiveness

Chapter 6: Secrets of a great relationship:
The Obvious Clues
The Secret Ratio
Being yourself

Chapter 7: Deciding your Style
Head or Heart
What Men Crave- What Woman Need

Chapter 8: No Man is a Match for a Woman
Who Puts her Heart First
Your Secret Guide

Chapter 9: Personality and Perception
Observations and Myths
Introverts vs Extroverts
Timing
What You Call them, they will become
The Law of Balance
Why He Doesnt Listen
The Man this will not work on

Chapter 10: Practical, Practical, Practical

Chapter 11: What you can Expect.

Pull your Ex Back: Guaranteed ways to bring your ex lover back into your life by Ryan Hall

Pull your Ex Back is one of the most amazing books I've ever have. For me, the contents are better that the Magic of Making Up. The contents tell you of what you should do specifically, what exactly to tell your ex to get him/her back into your arms again.










To give you a glimpse of it, here's the table of contents:
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Chapter #1 The Emotional Roller Coaster Phase
Chapter #2 So Why Did it All End?
Chapter #3 The Most Important Rule- "No contact"
Chapter #4 Putting it All Into Action..."The Instant Shift Technique"
Chapter #5 The Deciding Phase- Do You Really Want them Back?
Chapter #6 Getting Into Your Ex's Shoes
Chapter #7 Getting the Power Back-”The Main Process”
Chapter #8 An Important decision- "Let's Date Again"
Chapter #9 And Finally They Call
Chapter #10 Getting in Touch With Your Ex
Chapter #11 The Big Date
Chapter #12 The Big Re-Union
Chapter #13 Get Your Ex Addicted to You
Chapter #14 Most Vital Questions Answered
Chapter #15 When Things Don't Go Your Way
Chapter #16 Avoiding a Breakup When it Hasn't Already Taken Place
Chapter #17 What If I Dumped Them?
Final Notes


The ebook has 90 pages. It comes with a bonus ebook, entitled "“21 Most Important Keys to Getting Your Ex Back”.

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Can a Woman change a Man?

By Yinka Dixon
Rated "G" by the Author.
Last edited: Sunday, June 28, 2009
Posted: Sunday, June 28, 2009

Some men marry a beautiful girl, as a trophy, while some women marry a rich man for his money. Lots of men who have not figured out what a "long term relationship" is meant to be or feel like, suddenly find themselves feeling "trapped" once married, and make it the woman's “fault”. While it can be said that there are women who are cold hearted, coniving and calculating, several more women like to believe the best about their men. We still live in a predoimently "men's world", despite what lies we may choose to tell ourselves.

Can a woman change a man? Many women ask this question in the one-to-one or group sessions, and workshops I conduct for women in business, and for people in relationship issues. My friend, Dayo Olomu, addressed this issue also in an online article recently. Noone can change anyone (male or female), and quite honestly, noone should try. As a woman who previously lost all self-confidence, became depressive and close to being suicidal, being directly on the receiving end of this "you need to change" and "be submissive" phenomenon, I maintain that not all women are unreasonable or unrealistic. As a matter of fact, several more men, than women, "have not discovered themselves, or what they want from life and relationships" at the point of getting married. Statistics prove that women develop faster than men. Candidly, most women just want to be happy. Lots of men who have not figured out what a "long term relationship" is meant to be or feel like, suddenly find themselves feeling "trapped" once married, and make it the woman's “fault”. Some even make them abort their pregnancies even after marriage. Lots of times, this leads to resentment from the woman, which, if it remains unchecked, becomes a giant whirlwind of hatred.

Of course, the men then begin to demand "submission"!! a word, which in itself means absolutely nothing, except it has first been personalised. Anyone "demanding" the other person's "submission" or "change" (usually hiding under so-called Christian principles) has missed the real meaning of "Relationship" (or "Christianity", for that matter). As a noun, the word "Relationship" itself relies heavily on the word "Relate", which means to "associate, involve, connect or affiliate". Submission, like Christianity and Relationship, operates better on a two-way street, where there is an association, affiliation or connection. The popular quotation from the Bible "Do unto others as you would like them to do to you" is a standard which relationships should, but don't always follow. If you treat others right, you won't need to demand "change", "submission" or "respect".

Men and women want to associate with each other for personal and perhaps selfish reasons. It is a fact that men and women usually want several different things out of relationships. For a lot of men, what they want is in their heads. What majority of women want is in their hearts. Some men marry a beautiful girl, as a trophy, while some women marry a rich man for his money. If this is the case, I say, there is no reason to expect more. But people usually expect more, and here lies one of the problems. A union is formed when there appears to be a compromise of essential needs and wants on both sides. The major problems that relationships suffer, amongst others, are "hidden agendas", broken promises, and lack of proper communications.

Believe it or not, these days, lots of women try beforehand to leave turbulent relationships before they become almost cast-in-stone (with the arrival of the child/ren). In a lot of cases, it is the men who don't let go, promising change, and refusing to be separated. A man's jealousy can know no bounds. Sometimes, like you said, it is the relatives, the friends, onlookers, well-wishers, etc, who claim to know better, that broker a kind of "peace", "kiss and make up" situation, hoping for a "lived together happily ever after" condition. There is nothing unreasonable or unrealistic about thinking, hoping, or even, believing, that the man who promised to love you as long as he lives, will actually make good on that promise.

However, it is not as easy as ABC to get out of a relationship where someone has just shouted at you, made you feel very small, cursed both your parents, and even made an intimidating gremacing gesture, fists clenched, or palm raised towards your face, and made you cry. Not so simple. While it can be said that there are women who are cold hearted, coniving and calculating, several more women like to believe the best about their men. So, when they "forgive", most just forget. Until the next time, that is. Then they begin to see this as a pattern, by which time, it's almost too late to back out. For some, it is the fear of starting all over that gets them. Hopefully, they can stay alive long enough to start their lives all over.

We still live in a predominatly "men's world", despite what lies we may choose to tell ourselves. Society is not very forgiving to women who change men at the drop of a hat. Yet men cheat without batting an eyelid, and are even encouraged by other men, to do so. It is true that the biological clock is not on a woman's side. So, women wait longer in abusive situations, in order to have their children, ("in one place", meaning, "with one man") if that is possible. It should not become impossible to expect that the father of your child/ren will not turn you into a giant drum, beaten relentlessly until "humongous" sweatdrops fall like giant beads from his forehead. Once that curious word, "forgiveness", is pandered in love-ties, women are very quick to let go. It is not wrong to accept that a sorrowful look, and the words that spell "forgiveness", might be an indication of future relative harmony. But, if the women should insist that "this is not right", then, even their family members (oh, and the church!!!) tend to jump in and say "ahahh, relax. He will change. He has said - sorry!!". And the church members are the worst for passing judgements!!! And so, most women just stay back and accept whatever is thrown at them. Like Dayo said, noone will advice any woman to leave their husbands, but I can tell you this, once a man starts beating his woman, unless by some divine intervention, he will not stop. He simply can't help himself, and they say the first time (for spousal abusers) is the most difficult.

Women like to believe the best about their men. Most of the women in my mother's time who endured being beating to pulps were financially poor, and seemed to have no choice "for the children's" sake (as if the child/ren care!!!) Most children would rather have a well-looking, sane, and poor mother, than one that has been scarred and maimed in the name of staying married because of "the children". The truth is that the women in those days were essentially poor. The reverse is true these days, and a lot of men tend to be intimidated by a woman who is "doing" and "achieving" things. It is not uncommon to hear such colloquialisms as "you want to give my head in exchange...", "you want to place my head in subjugation", “you think I am a fool”... when a woman is demanding to be treated right. And in a lot of cases, heaven help the woman who earns more than the man.

There are so many factors that mitigate against a woman in relationships. I think it is wrong for anyone to advice any woman to endure an abusive relationship. Some men say that they "slapped" or "hit" their spouse "once", and immediately regretted it, and sometimes "feel betrayed" that the woman didn't immediately "forgive and forget", but she is still nursing the wounds years later. Other "things" may be in play, like attitudes, mode of communications, coming home late... Issues that will demand personal self-evaluation, and positive change. As a woman, if you choose to stay in an abusinve relationship, you better be prepared to become the deaf and dumb mute, having no opinion or expressive emotions. Perhaps even, give up your career, stay at home so you don't end up earning more, or promoted for being excellent at your job. Not that this will appease a man who has made up his mind that you must remain the punching bag or emotional garbage bin.

The conclusion of the matter, like Dayo says here, "Instead of trying to change a man, the advice is, ‘look before you leap.’ And IF you experience any doubt whatsoever after you've made the decision to stay, (even if your mother says it's ok), you may need to run for dear life. No family member will not tell you this. It's always going to be your choice, but the other side of the coin is not necessarily better. Let it be someone else's problem. Living alone is a tough choice, especially if there are children involved. Many women have lost their lives from being beaten or carefully crafted punishment borne out of deep hatred or jealousy. Many of them remained in the relationship because they "thought it would get better", “maybe he will change”. Believe you me, it never does, and he never does.

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